Develop and enhance your natural gifts: confrontation, clarity, authority
Work on your main problem area: trying to force or control your life
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hold yourself accountable for your extreme behaviours;
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when speaking to someone, notice the level and intensity of your voice; what level and intensity would suffice?
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discover one area in your life where you do not have to be tough;
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befriend your inner child;
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avoid black and white thinking;
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share your heart, with at least one person you trust;
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curb impulsive acts;
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be aware you can easily be intimidating;
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be open to other sources of truth;
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when you feel challenged to compete, ask yourself why you are compelled to pick up the challenge;
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ask yourself often why you do what you do, the way you do it;
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are there other ways of getting people to follow your lead than ordering or browbeating?
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don’t always be the rebel;
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be aware that aggression can hide vulnerability.
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spiritual practice:
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Follow Jesus as challenger of injustice
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As an EIGHT you believe that the world can be a hard and unjust place where the powerful take advantage of others. To gain respect, EIGHTs assert themselves with strong personal power. Matt 5:38-42, Offer the other cheek etc. yet don’t be a doormat, use the court system; the soldier can be sued. Forgiveness is the best way to handle injustice.
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Gospel contemplation: the centurion who believes in Jesus
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Gospel Contemplation: Jesus washes the feet of his disciples
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explore the notion of “servant leadership”
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follow the life of Peter
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Lectio Divina: read the Beatitudes carefully and see what they might suggest to you
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watch out for warning signs that you are too stressed as a EIGHT:
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you have feelings of being betrayed by “your people”
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you find yourself increasingly isolated
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others tell you you are callous and hard-hearted
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you experience episodes of rage and violence
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you find yourself plotting vengeance and retaliation against your “enemies”
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you experience episodes of striking back at society
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