Develop and enhance your natural gifts: teaching, tolerance, patience

Work on your main problem area: value-judging, condemning yourself and others

• journal about inner critic messages;

• release inner critic messages;

• note how often you criticize others, and try to find ways to offset your criticism;

• before correcting something or someone check your motivation;

• when you find yourself becoming frantic about some goal you have set, stop and ask yourself what is really at stake

• when you find yourself annoyed at disorder, stop and reflect upon why that is, and what really matters

• play more;

• forgive yourself and others;

• be less defensive about criticism;

• spiritual practices:

  • Follow Jesus as “idealist”

  • As Gospel contemplation, look at examples of disapproval of what others and they themselves do and ultimately what they are. In Luke 6:1-5&6-11, the uninvolved aspect of the 1 becomes furious with Jesus as he broke the law by eating grain & healed on the Sabbath.

  • Gospel contemplation: be with the elder son, as he does everything right, in the story of the Prodigal Son

  • Meditate on this saying of Jesus “Be whole as my Father is whole (not “perfect.”)”

  • In your quiet time, use this Mantra: “I am loved just as I am”

  • Forgive others – and yourself – for your shortcomings

  • Pray the “Serenity Prayer” as often as you need to.

  • Develop your “compassionate observer” who can say lovingly , as you acknowledge a mistake “that was interesting.”

• watch out for warning signs that you are too stressed as a ONE:

  • you are taking rigidly inflexible positions

  • you find yourself extremely self-righteous

  • you are rationalizing and justifying your actions

  • you experience intense feelings of disillusion

  • you engage in outbursts of rage and intolerance

Examples to emulate: Plato, Gandhi, Thoreau, John-Paul II, Jane Fonda, Joan Baez